“Femicides? Patriarchy has nothing to do with it": the Veneto Region conference on affective education


“Femicides? Patriarchy has nothing to do with it": the Veneto Region conference on affective education


Patriarchy has nothing to do with feminicides, because it ended in 1700 ”, but the cause must be sought in the family, in particular in women who “ have chosen to be managers ” and leave the boys alone to “ warm up their lunch in the microwave or eat at McDondald's ”. On the other hand, ” the mother is irreplaceable “, but since many women refuse to breastfeed ” often for aesthetic reasons, for fear of the breast flaking “, there is no contact with the mother's body, making a child feel ” rejected “. These are just some of the declarations of the psychologist and psychotherapist Vera Slepoj , invited by the Veneto Education Councilor Elena Donazzan for the meeting “Education for affectivity”, addressed to the municipal administrations of the Region.

It is not the first time that Slepoj points the finger at the family to explain gender violence : just a few days after Giulia Cecchettin's femicide, in an interview with Corriere the psychologist said that children are abandoned to themselves and that they form emotionally ” with the songs and models proposed by the trappers “, a theme also mentioned several times in the meeting in the Veneto region, where the psychologist criticized the clothing and make-up of the teenagers who emulate what they see in the videos. Councilor Donazzan, for her part, reiterated on social media that ” this is a very complex picture, where patriarchy has nothing to do with it, where we cannot hide the problems of children who are left alone too often in front of their cell phones ” .

Vera Slepoj is a character who has also made headlines in the past: in 1997 she lashed out against the anime Sailor Moon, accusing it of making children become ” sissies ” and of ” determining deviances in the sexual behavior of children “.

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Emotional education and a reminder of patriarchy would be solutions dictated by emotions. For the psychologist, in fact, it is not possible to give emotional education, because the only age at which it is possible to do so is the first months of a child's life. But in a context in which ” our identities are taken away and male and female no longer exist “, the mother cannot be replaced ” by a theory “. “ By eliminating gender, you eliminate diversity and do not accept it. It's not like you tell a kid with a handicap that he's the same as the others .” According to Slapoj, this would lead to an anticipation of evolutionary stages and sexual precocity and thus we resemble ” more and more the less advanced countries ” and ” we are equal to the Muslims who we criticize so much “.

The problems of masculinity have nothing to do with patriarchy. For Slapoj, the problem lies in mental illness and the dissolution of the family . The end of relationships, exacerbated by a ” pathological background “, leads to madness and therefore killing. The psychologist also underlined several times the ineffectiveness of the Basaglia law and the closure of mental asylums, which she also criticized several times in other public meetings and interviews.

One wonders, in light of Slapoj's positions, why the Veneto region decided to invite a professional who does not believe in affective education to a conference entitled “Education for affectivity “. According to Slapoj, the role of mayors and cultural administrations can be limited to childcare services and monitoring the behavior of families and adolescents by putting up posters. For the psychologist, in fact, acting on the world of emotions is ” utopian “.

The contents of the conference reflect the reluctance that the right has always shown towards gender and emotional education, so much so that it took up two hours of conference to say that it is not possible to do it, while continuing to cite the role of the ” educating community ”.

At the end of the conference, councilor Donazzan expressed the thought that the psychologist's words stimulated in her: ” If I became leader of the world, I wouldn't set up nurseries, but I would give money to mothers to stay at home with their children “. An excellent result for a conference that was supposed to teach affective education.



Jennifer Guerra was born in 1995 in the province of Brescia and today lives in the province of Treviso. A professional journalist, her writings have appeared in L'Espresso, Sette, La Stampa and The Vision , where she worked as an editor. For this newspaper she also edited the feminist-themed podcast AntiCorpi. She is interested in gender issues, feminism and LGBTQ+ rights. For Edizioni Tlon he wrote The electric body. Desire in the feminism of the future (2020) and for Bompiani The love capital. Manifesto for a political and revolutionary Eros (2021). She is a big fan of Ernest Hemingway.

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